I got married recently. I am 31. Does that mean I should have a kid? I cannot help but muse about as the usual questions about "settling down" comes barreling at me. I think I may actually have the answer. It all started last weekend when some aunty asked the million dollar question at a kids party and my quick answer was "I'm already married". That was followed by some very confused looks. Then it dawned on me...she meant kids!
An epiphany struck me today. No I don't want kids. Not now. Settled down to me meant married. That's it.
When one is settled down, one is happy and I'm very. Kids are for people with time to fill. I don't. I have dinners and plays and traveling and all that. Don't get me wrong, people with kids are fine. They have kids however because a. Its more important to them than other activities. b. Ooops accident.
It also means their friends have decided kids are more important to have and so there are fewer activities. My kind have not surrendered to lacing their vocabulary with single syllabus words and the cuteness of miniature everything. Not yet. Life is fluid and things may change. But for now, Aunty, I am settled down. Settled down is one being happy and balanced. Not popping babies...that's unsettling...
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